Category: Biblical Teaching

Be RECONCILED To God: Paul’s Anguished WARNING and the Path to MATURE Sonship

The church in Corinth was the most spiritually gifted congregation in the New Testament. Paul reminds them:

“You have been enriched in every way—in all your speaking and in all your knowledge… you do not lack any spiritual gift” (1 Corinthians 1:5–7).

Tongues, prophecy, miracles, bold preaching, deep insight—they had it all. If any church looked alive, thriving, and Spirit-blessed, it was Corinth.

Yet the same apostle who planted this church looked at it with tears in his eyes and terror in his heart. He feared that many of them—perhaps most—were on a fast track to hell.

He begged them as an ambassador of Christ: “Be reconciled to God” (2 Corinthians 5:20).

He commanded them:

“Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves… unless, of course, you fail the test” (2 Corinthians 13:5).

Reprobates. Counterfeits. Disqualified.

Paul was staring at a church overflowing with spiritual experiences and saying, in effect: “Some of you may not belong to Jesus at all.”

The Great Exchange—and the Great Danger

Everything hinges on the glorious truth of 2 Corinthians 5:21:

“God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.”

Christ took our sin. We receive His righteousness—the greatest exchange in history.

But notice the little word “might.” That purpose was still hanging in the balance for many Corinthians because their lives were riddled with blatant sexual immorality, factions, pride, drunkenness at the Lord’s Table, and tolerance of false teaching. Gifts abounded. Grace? Paul wasn’t sure.

A Father in Travail

Paul writes as a spiritual father in agony:

“I am jealous for you with a godly jealousy… I am afraid that your minds may somehow be led astray from your sincere and pure devotion to Christ” (2 Corinthians 11:2–3).

“My dear children, for whom I am again in the pains of childbirth until Christ is formed in you” (Galatians 4:19).

He knew that spiritual gifts, powerful experiences, and even miraculous signs are no proof of salvation. Judas worked miracles. Saul prophesied.

Love, repentance, humility, holiness—these are the evidences that Christ is truly in you.

The Ongoing Call: Restricted Affections

Most often, “Be reconciled to God” is heard as a call to the lost. But Paul is addressing believers—those who have already received salvation. He is pleading with them to live fully in the reconciliation already won, not merely to possess it in theory.

Immediately after this plea, he diagnoses the problem: “You are not restricted by us, but you are restricted in your own affections… Widen your hearts also” (2 Corinthians 6:12–13).

The tragedy is not lack of teaching or gifting—it is narrowed hearts, misplaced desires, and divided loyalty. Believers can be anointed and orthodox yet closed to the full virtues of God because of unequal yoking with darkness, worldly alliances, and tolerated idols of the heart (2 Corinthians 6:14–16).

Justification is the doorway into new life, not the full inheritance. Reconciliation is believers continually aligning their hearts and affections with God. Without this ongoing participation, even the justified remain stagnant—spiritual babes rather than mature sons.

From Entry to Sonship: Milk to Meat

Like an heir who is still a child and differs nothing from a servant (Galatians 4:1), many Spirit-filled believers remain carnal and divisive (1 Corinthians 3:1–3). Sin’s legal power is broken, but voluntary submission to unrighteousness keeps them servants in practice.

Hebrews 5:12–14 warns that those who partake only of milk are unskilled in the word of righteousness and lack discernment. Solid food belongs to the mature, who by reason of use have their senses exercised to discern good and evil.

True sonship requires:

– Yielding bodily members to righteousness

– Submitting to Spirit-led holiness

– Partaking in the divine nature

– Walking as children of light (Ephesians 5:8)

– Giving no place to the devil

This is not sinless perfection—it is Spirit-empowered transformation into mature sons who carry authority and experience the fullness of their inheritance.

Paul uses history as a sobering warning: Israel was redeemed, baptized in the sea, fed with manna—yet most fell in the wilderness (1 Corinthians 10:1–12). “These things happened as warnings for us… So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall!”

The Narrow Path and the Faithful Remnant

Yet amidst widespread compromise, Scripture always highlights a faithful remnant—grieved within, aware of their weakness apart from Christ, trusting the Spirit rather than the flesh. These hidden ones watch, pray, and persevere, living close to Jesus even when the broader church is distracted or lukewarm.

They embody the narrow path—unseen, patient, and prepared.

Jesus’ question still pierces: “When the Son of Man returns, will He find faith on the earth?” (Luke 18:8).

A Trumpet Blast and Merciful Summons Today

We live in a church age intoxicated with gifts, experiences, and success—conferences overflow, worship is electric, testimonies dramatic. Yet many remain gifted but stagnant, forgiven yet indulgent, Spirit-filled yet lukewarm.

Paul’s question echoes across the centuries: “Do you not know that Jesus Christ is in you—unless indeed you are reprobates?”

Rich in gifts, poor in grace—this was Corinth’s peril. It may be ours.

But the Spirit’s grief is matched by mercy:

“Now is the acceptable time; now is the day of salvation” (2 Corinthians 6:2).

The Lord is longsuffering, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance (2 Peter 3:9).

The summons to reconciliation is still active, still urgent, still merciful. Examination, repentance, widened hearts, and renewed obedience are invitations to restoration and maturity—not condemnation.

Hear the apostle’s heart-wrenching cry.

Examine yourself.

Be reconciled to God.

Widen your heart.

Grow into mature sonship.

Cling to Christ with everything you have.

Because love warns—and mercy calls.

Now is the acceptable time.

Now is the day of salvation.

 

Stop Calling Yourself a WORM: The Scandal of Our DIVINE Sonship and the GLORY That Creation Is WAITING For

Stop Calling Yourself a Worm                                                                                              The Scandal of Our Divine Sonship and the Glory That Creation Is Waiting For 

Most Christians live with a quiet, unspoken identity crisis.
They say “I’m just a sinner saved by grace,” or “I’m nothing but a worm,” or “I’m just human.”
They mean it as humility.
But what if that language is not humility at all — but a subtle unbelief that dishonors the very work of Christ and keeps the whole creation in bondage?
The New Testament does not describe us as improved sinners.
It describes us as a new creation — a completely different order of being.

1. We Are Not Improved Adams — We Are a New Species

“Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.”
— 2 Corinthians 5:17

The Greek word for “new creature” (kainē ktisis) does not mean “renovated.”
It means new kind — something that never existed before.

We are not Adam 2.0 with better morals.
We are a new humanity born from the last Adam, who is from heaven.
Paul makes this clear in 1 Corinthians 15:45–49:

“And so it is written, The first man Adam was made a living soul; the last Adam was made a quickening [life-giving] spirit…
As is the earthy, such are they also that are earthy: and as is the heavenly, such are they also that are heavenly.
And as we have borne the image of the earthy, we shall also bear the image of the heavenly.”

We have been begotten of God (1 John 5:1; James 1:18).
The incorruptible seed — the very sperma (Greek for “seed”) of God Himself — has been planted in our spirit (1 Pet 1:23).
That seed is not a moral upgrade.
It is the living life of the Son, growing toward full expression.
Because we are in Christ, we too are destined to be life-giving spirits — just as He is.
We are no longer merely natural, living souls like the first Adam.
We now carry the same heavenly, life-giving nature that raised Christ from the dead.
This is not “partaking of divine virtues.”
This is divine life taking root in us.
We are no longer fundamentally earthy.
In our new birth and innermost being, we are heavenly.

2. False Humility Is Unbelief in Disguise

When we keep saying “I’m just a sinner,” “I’m worthless,” or “I’m only human,” we are not being humble.
We are calling God a liar.

God says: “Now are we the sons of God” (1 John 3:2).
Present tense. Not “we will be someday.” Now.

God says: “We shall be like Him” (1 John 3:2).
Not just in behavior — but in the fullness of glorified sonship.

God says: “The old man is crucified with Him” (Rom 6:6).
Dead. Buried. Gone.

To cling to the identity of the old Adam — to keep mourning over a corpse that Christ has already put to death — is not humility.
It is unbelief in the resurrection life that has already been imparted.

True humility is agreeing with God:
“Yes, I was worthless in myself.
But now I am what You say I am: Your son, born of Your divine life, destined to bear the image of the heavenly Man.”

3. Jesus Is the Perfect Pattern

Jesus did not deny His identity to be humble.
He knew exactly who He was:
“I and my Father are one” (John 10:30).
“Before Abraham was, I am” (John 8:58).

Yet He humbled Himself, became a servant, and obeyed unto death (Phil 2:5–8).
His humility was not self-diminishment.
It was living His true identity in dependence on the Father.

He is our model.
“Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus” (Phil 2:5).

Real humility is knowing who you are in God — and living it without pride or shame.

4. This Is Not “Little Gods” — This Is the Gospel

We are not becoming the Creator.
We are not claiming ontological equality with God.
We are sons by adoption, begotten of His divine life, sharing in His nature by grace alone (2 Pet 1:4).

The early church fathers understood this:
“He became man that we might become god” (Athanasius) — not in essence, but by participation in the divine life that is growing in us.

We are not little gods.
We are children of God, carrying the seed of eternal life, destined to be fully conformed to the image of His Son (Rom 8:29).

5. The Cosmic Stakes: Creation Is Waiting for Us

Here is the staggering truth that should drop every jaw:

“The earnest expectation of the creature waiteth for the manifestation of the sons of God.
For the creature was made subject to vanity… in hope that the creature itself also shall be delivered from the bondage of corruption into the glorious liberty of the children of God.”
— Romans 8:19–21

The whole creation — earth, sky, seas, animals, stars — is groaning in pain.
It is waiting for one thing: the unveiling of the sons of God.

Jesus Himself prayed that the glory He gave us would make us one, so that the world would know the Father sent Him (John 17:22–23).

Our revelation is not incidental.
It is the mechanism by which creation itself will be liberated.
Every believer who refuses to believe and live in their true identity is (unwittingly) contributing to the delay of the liberation the entire cosmos is crying out for.

6. The Final Call

Stop contending for the corpse of the old Adam.
Stop calling yourself a worm when God calls you a son.
Stop living as though the divine life planted in you is too small to matter.

You are a new creation.
The old has passed away.
All things have become new.

Believe what God says about you.
Live as sons and daughters — not in pride, but in joyful dependence on the Father who begot you.

The glory that awaits is not a private reward.
It is the cosmic event the whole universe is holding its breath for.
When the sons of God are fully revealed — when the divine life that is already growing in us breaks forth in its completed form — creation itself will be set free.

The enemy’s greatest work is not to make us deny Christ.
It is to make us forget who we have become in Him.

Rise up.
Believe.
Be unveiled.
The creation is waiting.

“Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is.”
— 1 John 3:2

Let that sink in.
And let it set you free.

 

 

If Anyone DOES NOT Love the LORD Jesus Christ: The Forgotten ANATHEMA of 1 Corinthians 16:22

In the final lines of his first letter to the Corinthians, Paul delivers one of the most solemn and unsettling statements in all of Scripture:

“If any man love not the Lord Jesus Christ, let him be Anathema. Maranatha.”

(1 Corinthians 16:22, KJV)

After teaching on the resurrection of the dead, the collection for the Jerusalem saints, and sending greetings from fellow workers, Paul suddenly pronounces a curse. The Greek word anathema is not a mild disapproval or a gentle warning. It is the strongest term Paul ever uses for spiritual condemnation—something or someone devoted to destruction, set apart under the judgment of God. The Aramaic cry that immediately follows, Maranatha—“Our Lord, come!”—only heightens the intensity. The return of Christ is the blessed hope of those who love Him and the day of terror for those who do not.

This verse is almost never preached today. It is too severe, too uncompromising, too far removed from the tone of modern, seeker-friendly, positive Christianity. Yet it stands in the canon, untouched and unflinching. What does Paul mean when he says someone “does not love the Lord Jesus Christ”? And what does this warning mean for the church in our time?

Jesus Himself Defined What Love for Him Looks Like

Jesus answered the question long before Paul wrote it. In the upper room, on the night He was betrayed, He spoke plainly to His disciples:

“If anyone loves me, he will keep my word, and my Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him. Whoever does not love me does not keep my words. And the word that you hear is not mine but the Father’s who sent me.”

(John 14:23–24, ESV)

One of the most sobering realities of Paul’s warning is that he is not addressing unbelievers or atheists. He is writing to the church — to people who already profess faith in Christ, who have been baptized, who partake of the Lord’s Supper, and who call Jesus “Lord.” Yet within that very church, he pronounces this anathema.

Most Christians today instinctively assume, “This can’t be about me — it must be about those who don’t believe.” But Paul does not say, “If anyone does not believe in the Lord Jesus Christ, let him be anathema.” He says, “If anyone does not love the Lord Jesus Christ…”

And love, as Jesus defined it, is not mere intellectual assent or a one-time confession. It is obedience, submission, and loyalty to His lordship. The verse is aimed squarely at those who claim to know Him but deny Him by their lives — through persistent sin, lukewarmness, self-seeking, or refusal to submit to His word. The Lord detests lukewarm believers (Revelation 3:15–16), and Paul’s warning makes it clear: even those inside the church are not exempt.

The writer of Hebrews echoes this same sobering reality when he warns of those who have been enlightened, tasted the heavenly gift, shared in the Holy Spirit, and tasted the goodness of the word of God — yet fall away. For such people, he says, it is impossible to renew them again to repentance, since they are crucifying once again the Son of God and holding Him up to contempt (Hebrews 6:4–6). This is not a description of unbelievers who never truly came to Christ — it is a warning to those who have experienced the reality of the gospel but do not persevere in love and obedience. The trajectory is the same as Paul’s: those who do not continue to love the Lord Jesus Christ by keeping His word stand under the most serious judgment.

No wonder Paul himself instructs the Corinthians:

“Examine yourselves, whether ye be in the faith; prove your own selves. Know ye not your own selves, how that Jesus Christ is in you, except ye be reprobates?” (2 Corinthians 13:5, KJV).

The very apostle who pronounces the anathema commands believers to test the authenticity of their faith and love for Christ — lest they prove to be reprobate.

Paul gives a similar warning to Gentile believers in Romans 11:

“If you have been cut off from what is by nature a wild olive tree and grafted, contrary to nature, into a cultivated olive tree, how much more will these, the natural branches, be grafted back into their own olive tree… Do not be arrogant… if God did not spare the natural branches, neither will he spare you. They were broken off because of unbelief, but you stand fast through faith. So do not become proud, but fear. For if God did not spare the natural branches, neither will he spare you if you do not continue in his kindness” (Romans 11:20–22).

The message is unmistakable: even those grafted in by faith can be cut off if they do not persevere in faith and obedience.

In the very same letter to the Corinthians, Paul uses Israel in the wilderness as a stark example:

“Now these things took place as examples for us, that we might not desire evil as they did… Now these things happened to them as an example, but they were written down for our instruction, on whom the end of the ages has come. Therefore let anyone who thinks that he stands take heed lest he fall” (1 Corinthians 10:6, 11–12).

The Israelites had been delivered from Egypt, baptized into Moses, ate the manna, drank from the rock (Christ), yet most were destroyed in the wilderness for idolatry, immorality, testing God, and grumbling. Paul’s point is clear: those who have experienced God’s grace can still be destroyed if they do not continue in love and obedience to the Lord.

And earlier in the same discourse:

“If you love me, you will keep my commandments.”

(John 14:15)

For Jesus, love for Him is not primarily an emotional experience or a warm feeling. It is obedience, submission, and loyalty to His lordship. Where there is no keeping of His word, there is no genuine love. Paul’s anathema in 1 Corinthians 16:22 is not an addition to Jesus’ teaching — it is the apostolic application of it, delivered with the full weight of his authority.

The Marks of a Life That Does Not Love the Lord

Scripture paints a clear and sobering portrait of what a life that “does not love the Lord Jesus Christ” looks like. These are not occasional failures that believers repent of and turn from. They are persistent patterns that reveal a heart that has not truly submitted to Christ’s lordship.

Persistent, unrepentant sin

“No one who abides in him keeps on sinning,” John writes (1 John 3:6). A life marked by willful, ongoing rebellion against God’s commands shows that the person is not abiding in Christ. When sin becomes a lifestyle rather than a struggle, it is evidence of a heart that does not love the Lord.

This includes maintaining a loving heart toward the brethren — for hatred, backbiting, discord, quarrels, and fights among God’s people are equally clear signs of not remaining in the Lord. “Whoever hates his brother is in the darkness and does not know where he is going,” John declares (1 John 2:11). Love is the crux of the Christian life: “Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8). Where there is persistent division and lack of love for the brethren, there is no genuine love for Christ.

Taking grace for granted / absence of the fear of the Lord

“Shall we continue in sin that grace may abound? By no means!” Paul exclaims (Romans 6:1). Those who presume upon God’s grace, who treat it as a license to sin without reverence or awe before a holy God, show contempt for His holiness. “Our God is a consuming fire,” Hebrews reminds us (Hebrews 12:29), and those who lack the fear of the Lord despise both His mercy and His justice.

Disregarding or disobeying the word of God

“Whoever says ‘I know him’ but does not keep his commandments is a liar,” John declares (1 John 2:4). To ignore, twist, or disobey Scripture is to reject Christ’s authority as Lord. Those who approach God’s word without trembling, who engage in eisegesis to bend it to their own desires or agendas, lack the fear that is the beginning of wisdom (Proverbs 1:7; Isaiah 66:2). “The ignorant and unstable twist [the Scriptures] to their own destruction,” Peter warns (2 Peter 3:16).

Hating the brethren / sowing division and discord

“Whoever hates his brother is in the darkness,” John writes, and “Whoever hates his brother is a murderer” (1 John 2:9; 3:15). Hatred among professing believers, gossip, slander, and the sowing of division prove there is no love for God. “If anyone says, ‘I love God,’ and hates his brother, he is a liar” (1 John 4:20).

Self-serving ministry / exploiting the sheep

“They are shepherds who feed only themselves,” Jude laments (Jude 12). Ministers who use the flock for personal gain, reputation, or power—rather than caring for them as Christ the Chief Shepherd—do not love Him. They are hirelings who flee when danger comes (John 10:12–13) and wolves who devour the sheep (Acts 20:29–30).

Friendship with the world / spiritual adultery

“Friendship with the world is enmity with God,” James declares (James 4:4). Those who coalesce with the spirit of this age, who love its values, its entertainment, its philosophies, and its morality, declare themselves enemies of God. “Do not love the world or the things in the world,” John warns (1 John 2:15).

Loving and pursuing mammon

“You cannot serve God and money,” Jesus said plainly (Matthew 6:24; 1 Timothy 6:11). Greed, the pursuit of wealth, status, or power, is idolatry (Colossians 3:5). When someone’s life is driven by the love of money rather than the love of Christ, they have chosen a different master.

Dragging souls after themselves instead of after Christ

“From among your own selves will arise men speaking twisted things, to draw away the disciples after them,” Paul warned the Ephesian elders (Acts 20:30). Personality cults, manipulation, control, and the building of empires around a human name steal the allegiance that belongs to Jesus alone. True shepherds point people to Christ; false ones draw people to themselves. Men of corrupt minds, and destitute of the truth, supposing that gain is godliness – 1 Timothy 6:5; Mark 13:22.

Denying Christ in word or deed

“Whoever denies me before men, I also will deny before my Father who is in heaven,” Jesus said (Matthew 10:33). A life that refuses to confess Christ’s lordship in practice—whether through cowardice, compromise, or open rejection—stands condemned.

All of these are not mere imperfections or “struggles” in believers. They are marks of a life that does not love the Lord Jesus Christ in the biblical, covenantal sense. Paul’s warning is not an overstatement. He repeats the same curse in Galatians 1:8–9 against those who preach a false gospel. In both cases, the root issue is the same: rejection of Christ’s lordship. The result is the same—separation from God’s covenant blessings and exposure to final judgment.

The Weight of the Warning and the Cry of Maranatha

Paul does not pronounce this anathema lightly. The immediate follow-up, Maranatha—“Our Lord, come!”—makes the stakes clear. The return of Christ is the blessed hope of those who love Him and the day of terror for those who do not.

That is why Paul writes elsewhere, “knowing the terror of the Lord, we persuade others” (2 Corinthians 5:11, KJV). This terror of the Lord is not just the dread of giving an account at the judgment seat — it is the fearful reality of final condemnation for those who do not truly love and obey Christ. It is the very foundation of New Testament ministry and Christian living, driving Paul to warn and plead with urgency.

One of the most terrifying realities of this warning comes from the lips of Jesus Himself in the Sermon on the Mount. On the day of judgment, many will say to Him, “Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?” But He will declare to them, “I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness” (Matthew 7:21–23). These are people who professed faith, performed religious acts, and even claimed to serve Christ — yet they are cast into eternal fire. Their entire Christian profession was for nothing because they never truly loved Him; they never truly submitted to His lordship. They were never abiding in Him.

A Call to Examine Ourselves

This is not a message to despair over every sin or moment of doubt. Scripture distinguishes between those who stumble but repent (1 John 1:9; 2:1) and those who persist in rebellion with no fruit of genuine faith (Matthew 7:19–23; 1 John 3:9–10). The difference is repentance, humility, and a life that increasingly bears the marks of true love for Christ.

But it is a solemn call to self-examination:

“Examine yourselves, to see whether you are in the faith. Test yourselves. Or do you not realize this about yourselves, that Jesus Christ is in you?—unless indeed you fail to meet the test!” (2 Corinthians 13:5)

Do we truly love the Lord Jesus Christ?

Do we keep His word?

Do we fear Him?

Do we love His people?

Do we point others to Him alone?

Conclusion

The church today is filled with noise, platforms, programs, and personalities. Yet Paul’s final word in 1 Corinthians cuts through it all like a sword:

If anyone does not love the Lord Jesus Christ—let him be anathema. Maranatha.

Therefore, let us offer to God acceptable worship, with reverence and awe, for our God is a consuming fire. (Hebrews 12:28–29)

And if you call on the Father who judges impartially according to each one’s deeds, conduct yourselves with fear throughout the time of your sojourning. (1 Peter 1:17)

He who has an ear, let him hear what the Spirit says to the churches. (Revelation 3:22)

Come, Lord Jesus.

And may He find a people who truly love Him—not with lip service, but with lives surrendered, obedient, humble, and wholly devoted to His name alone.

The HARDEST Thing for Man: The AUDACITY to Believe He’s ALREADY Free

Most people find it easier to feel guilty than to believe they’re already free. This message breaks that illusion. Discover why unworthiness is the greatest lie ever told — and how the audacity to believe what Christ finished changes everything.

The hardest struggle for man isn’t sin — it’s belief. Not belief that God exists, but belief that His finished work in Christ has already made us free. Humanity has learned to confess its sins with trembling lips, yet finds it almost impossible to confess its righteousness with confidence. It feels safer to stay in guilt than to step into grace. False humility bows its head low, but true faith dares to look God in the eye and see what He sees.

We call it humility when we say, “I am unworthy,” yet Heaven calls it unbelief.

The Death That Ended It All

Paul’s question in Romans 6:2 cuts through every shadow of doubt:

“How shall we who died to sin live any longer in it?”

He’s not arguing for moral perfection — he’s pointing to identity. Those who are baptized into Christ’s death have already crossed the line. Sin’s dominion ended at the cross. The old man was crucified, not reformed.

To live as though sin still defines us is to stand at an empty tomb, searching for a body that’s no longer there.

False Humility: The Mask of Unbelief

There’s a kind of piety that loves to feel broken — the endless confession of failure, the language of unworthiness. It sounds spiritual, but it denies the victory of the cross. The enemy doesn’t mind your repentance if it keeps you from renewal.

Unworthiness is a lie from the pit — crafted to keep you powerless, to rob you of the abundant life Christ secured. The power of God flows through identification: knowing you are a new creation. The Spirit doesn’t visit you to make you feel better about the old nature; He lives in you to reveal that the old nature is gone.

The Audacity of Renewal

“Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” (Romans 12:2)

This isn’t a call to self-improvement — it’s an invitation to think from resurrection ground. The renewed mind doesn’t beg for what grace already gave; it reckons it true. It dares to say, I am the righteousness of God in Christ, not as a boast, but as alignment with truth.

Faith is audacity — the courage to agree with God even when feelings protest.

Living from Possession, Not Pursuit

Hebrews 6:1 urges us to

“Leave the elementary teachings and go on to maturity.”

The writer isn’t belittling repentance; he’s pointing us beyond it. We’re not meant to live at the doorway of forgiveness, forever repeating the same entry prayer. The house has rooms — joy, peace, sonship, authority, and fellowship with God.

You were never meant to chase freedom. You were meant to live from it. The Spirit of Christ has furnished you with everything needed for godliness and victory. The abundant life isn’t a promise hanging in the future; it’s a possession now.

The Assurance of Forgiveness

The English reading of 1 John 1:9 seems to suggest that God continually forgives each time we confess, but the Greek reveals something deeper. The verb ἀφῇ (aphē) stands in the aorist subjunctive — describing not a recurring process, but a complete act. John’s point isn’t that believers must live in constant cycles of confession and guilt; it’s that forgiveness has already been accomplished in Christ. Confession, then, is not a means to earn cleansing but an honest walk in the light — agreeing with God about what’s already true.

The surrounding verses clarify John’s audience. “If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves” (1 John 1:8) speaks to those who denied their need for redemption, not to those already cleansed. And “If anyone sins, we have an Advocate with the Father” (1 John 2:1) offers assurance, not reapplication of atonement. Christ’s advocacy is not a fresh sacrifice but the enduring voice of His finished work.

John’s message harmonizes perfectly with Paul’s: believers live not in sin-consciousness but in truth-conscious fellowship. The light doesn’t condemn — it confirms – Romans 8:1. The believer’s heart rests, knowing forgiveness is not pending approval but a settled reality secured by the faithfulness and justice of God through His Son.

The Boldness of the New Mind

To believe you are free is not arrogance — it’s agreement. The mind renewed by the Spirit no longer wrestles with whether it deserves love. It simply abides in it. This is the hardest thing for man: not repentance, but reception; not striving, but resting in what Christ has already accomplished.

The cross ended the question of worthiness. Resurrection began the life of the new creation.

And the world still waits for those who dare to believe it.

Many Christians believe that Jesus died for them, yet few reckon that they themselves died with Him on the cross — a truth symbolized in baptism. They celebrate His resurrection but seldom grasp that they too have already risen with Christ, seated with Him in heavenly glory. The essence of the gospel is not just what Christ accomplished on our behalf, but what happened to us in Him: our old, sinful nature was crucified, and a new creation was born. This new creation — God’s workmanship (poiēma), His masterpiece — is not a reformed sinner but a wholly new nature. Righteousness is not a goal to be achieved, but a gift already received by faith, and Romans 5:17 promises that those who receive this abundance of grace and the free gift of righteousness reign in life. Reckoning this reality, especially that we are the righteousness of God in Christ, is crucial; failure to do so grieves the Holy Spirit. Dwelling in false humility, sin-consciousness, or continual confession of what is already done away in Christ disrupts our reigning and chokes the life of God in us. Believing only in what Christ did, without embracing what He made us to be, keeps many walking in the shadow of the grave, striving to improve a self that is already dead, instead of living fully in the resurrection life they’ve already been given.

Let God FIX Your Marriage FEARS: Step into His HOLY Design

Introduction: The Illusion of a Savior-Spouse

Are you paralyzed by marriage fears, waiting for a perfect spouse who fits your worldly ideals? Let God fix those fears and guide you into His holy design for matrimony. You’ve prayed for years, waiting for the perfect spouse to sweep you off your feet and make life complete. You’ve envisioned someone who fits the world’s mold, attractive, charming, and perfectly aligned with your desires. But what if you’ve missed God’s choice because they didn’t match your checklist? Worse, what if you’re expecting a spouse to heal your inner brokenness, childhood trauma, or unresolved conflicts? The truth is stark. Only God can make you whole. Marriage is not a cure for your wounds. It’s a crucible for selfless love. To embrace this sacred union, you must be prepared in mind for what you are entering. As Paul said, “Nevertheless, such shall have trouble in the flesh” (1 Corinthians 7:28). You must enter marriage with Christ and His Word abiding in you. Unlike the present reality, one should not marry or love someone for career prospects, financial gain, or a comfortable life, but to fulfill God’s plan through this union and to raise godly offspring. This article will shatter the myths of perfection and self-reliance, urging you to find healing in Christ and step boldly into God’s plan for holy matrimony.

The Lie of the Perfect Fix

The world sells a fantasy. A soulmate will fulfill every longing, erase every scar, and make you whole. But Scripture declares, “All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23). No human, no matter how godly, can heal your deepest wounds. Expecting a spouse to fix your inner conflicts, whether from childhood trauma, insecurity, or past hurts, is a recipe for disappointment and relational strain. God alone completes you. “And in Him you have been made complete” (Colossians 2:10, NASB). A spouse is a God-given partner, a comfort and help, but not your savior. Jesus must always be your first love, and your heart cannot be given to anyone but Him, allowing you to love others with Christ at the center. The world teaches you to fall in love, a phrase that hints something is off. You don’t simply fall. You are meant to become alive in love. You choose to love the unlovable, even when your flesh struggles to bear it. Clinging to the myth of a perfect spouse, or expecting a marriage to fix you, is rebellion against God’s design, trapping you in a bubble of unreality.

This worldly mindset manifests in practices like living together and “tasting” intimacy before marriage, which is outright corruption. What is even more shocking is to see this mentality infiltrating the Church and the Christian sphere—it is like a termite working silently from within. Satan has penetrated this sacred space.

This is humanism and extreme individualism at its peak, rejecting God entirely. As Scripture warns, “men shall be lovers of themselves rather than lovers of God” (2 Timothy 3:2). It represents a total refusal to trust God, His plan, and His timing for our lives.

We must remember that you and I are the temple of the Holy Spirit. The Spirit of God dwells within us and is grieved when we embrace worldly, sensual, and devilish wisdom, as James 3 clearly exposes. Choosing this path is a rejection of God’s way and a denial of the sanctity He has called us to.

Incompatible!

Beyond the deception of a perfect spouse lies another worldly myth: the idea of incompatibility. I’d like to bury the word “incompatibility”—because in truth, there is no such thing. We are all incompatible by nature. There is no one out there exactly like you, and there is no one exactly like you. What bridges the gap is not natural compatibility, but Christ. We are called to put on Christ and His nature (Romans 13:14; Colossians 3:12–14) and to choose love.

Love is not a natural occurrence that simply falls into place; it is an intentional choice. Modern culture teaches us to search endlessly for someone who “matches” us, but the gospel calls us to grow into Christlikeness and actively love—even when it costs, even when it doesn’t come naturally.

Healing Your Inner Brokenness with God

Before you can love another, you must first be made whole in Christ. Inner conflicts, whether rooted in childhood wounds, rejection, or shame, must be resolved with God, not your spouse. I am not saying that you must be perfect before entering into marital life, but rather that we should recognize our weaknesses, insufficiencies, and inner conflicts—and step into it with God at the center. When we trust Him fully, He is able to bring into our lives the very person who can walk alongside us in that healing. Psalm 147:3 promises, “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” God may use marriage as the beginning of a healing process. But that healing may not unfold in the way you imagine—it may come through fire and trials. For just as the crucible purifies gold and the furnace refines silver, fire is crucial to purge the impurities of embedded lies. Without it, true purity cannot be brought forth. Through prayer, Scripture, and surrender, God mends what no human can. When you rely on Him to heal your trauma, you stop demanding that others fill a void only He can satisfy. This freedom allows you to love without selfish motives, offering the selfless, Christ-like love marriage demands (Ephesians 5:25). Yet, under God’s guidance, marriage might help lift you out of your misery of inner conflicts as you work with the Spirit of God through His Word to align yourself correctly and to bring you out of unwholesomeness. Marriage can function like a pulley that lifts you up and a fire that burns all your falsehood to be the person God wants you to be. Only when you’re anchored in Christ’s completeness can you enter marriage ready to give, not just receive.

Practical Steps for Healing

– Pour out your hurts to God in prayer (Psalm 62:8). Ask for His healing and wisdom.

– Meditate on Scripture. Let verses like Isaiah 61:1 (“He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted”) renew your mind.

– Seek a Christian counselor or mentor to guide you through trauma with biblical wisdom.

– Surrender to the Spirit. Let Him transform your heart, producing love, joy, and peace (Galatians 5:22-23).

Repentance and Preparation for God’s Design

With a heart cleansed by Christ, you can prepare for marriage by aligning with God’s holy design. Have faith in God. If you have led a sinful life or committed fornication, which is sexual relationship outside marriage (a covenant relationship before God), know that you have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ (1 John 2:1). Come boldly to the throne of grace to obtain mercy and find grace (Hebrews 4:16). If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9). If we walk in the light, as He is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin (1 John 1:7). Confession must be followed with measures. The sexual union was not merely a bodily exchange but tied the souls in the union, for the twain shall be one flesh, they are no more twain but one flesh (Mark 10:8). By joining yourself to a person, you carry their spiritual and emotional baggage, such as guilt, shame, or spiritual bondage, in your flesh, and that must be purged. Only the blood of Jesus Christ can cleanse it. You must cut off all soul ties by the help of the Spirit of God. Be in His presence in fasting and prayer as the Lord directs you. For example, pray, “Lord, by Your blood, sever any ungodly soul ties from my past, and cleanse me from all unrighteousness.” Or ask church members for help. Confessions are powerful to eliminate all possible footholds of the devil that you have given him over (Ephesians 4:27).

Pray for the leading of the Holy Spirit to guide you to the right person. Your mind tends to wander, never satisfied with one, but decide to stick with one person with the intention to love them with agape love. Study the Word of God to see what He expects of you as a man or a woman. Both men and women have different roles to fulfill. If you resist God’s Word, you are your own lord, and your confession of calling Jesus Lord is false, deceiving yourself. It is easy to call Jesus Lord and worship Him with endless songs, but if your heart is not aligned with the law of the Spirit of Life in Christ Jesus, you are wasting your life. You must replace the law of sin and death with the law of the Spirit of Life in Christ Jesus, which will set your life on the right course (Romans 8:2).

Scripture provides clear roles for husbands and wives to fulfill God’s holy design.

Diagram: Biblical Roles in Marriage as described in Ephesians 5 and Colossians 3

Temperaments: God’s Design in Imperfect Vessels

God created each person with unique temperaments, reflecting His character yet marred by the Fall (Genesis 3:6-7). Understanding these helps you embrace a spouse’s imperfections, moving beyond superficial expectations. Here’s how the five temperaments shape relationships and require God’s healing.

Choleric: The Bold Leader 

– Confident and driven, cholerics lead like Nehemiah (Nehemiah 2:20).

– Pride or impatience can mask insecurities, often rooted in a need for control.

– They bring vision but may struggle to empathize unless healed of self-reliance.

– Surrendering pride to Christ fosters humility and love (Philippians 2:3).

Sanguine: The Joyful Connector 

– Warm and uplifting, sanguines shine like Barnabas (Acts 4:36).

– A need for approval may stem from rejection wounds, leading to shallow connections.

– They bring joy but need discipline to love deeply.

– Rooting identity in Christ frees them to love without seeking validation (Colossians 3:3).

Phlegmatic: The Steadfast Peacemaker

– Calm and loyal, phlegmatics foster peace like Abraham (Genesis 13:8-9).

– Passivity may hide fear of conflict or unaddressed pain.

– They offer stability but must confront issues boldly.

– God’s strength empowers initiative (Isaiah 41:10).

Melancholy: The Thoughtful Idealist

– Deep and precise, melancholics reflect God’s truth like Jeremiah (Jeremiah 9:1).

– Perfectionism or unforgiveness often masks fear of failure or past hurts.

– They bring depth but must release grudges.

– Resting in God’s grace frees them from despair (Hebrews 4:16).

Supine: The Faithful Servant

– Gentle and serving, supines love like Mary (John 12:3).

– Fear of rejection or bottled emotions may stem from early wounds.

– They serve selflessly but need confidence to express needs.

– God’s love empowers bold service (Romans 8:38-39).

Reflection Question

Which temperament reflects you? Are you expecting a spouse to fix its weaknesses, or are you seeking God’s healing to redeem them?

The Heart of Marriage: A Crucible for Christ-Like Love

Marriage is not a fairy tale. It is holy matrimony! It’s God’s holy design, a sacred test where you die to self and learn to love as Christ does. Enter marriage not with the intention of fixing your spouse, but with the humility to be refined and corrected yourself. True marriage is a journey with Christ at the center, sustained by prayer and grounded in obedience to the Word of God. If you resist these scriptural commands, recognize that it is not merely a marriage problem but a heart problem. Your flesh is warring against the authority of God’s Word. Marriage has a way of unmasking who you truly are. It will reveal whether you are a genuine disciple of Christ or simply one who honors Him with words while denying Him in life.

Think about this: why do you believe God commanded the husband to love his wife as Christ loved the church, and the wife to respect and be subject to her husband in everything? Col 3:18; Eph 5:22,24 If both were perfect beings, such commands would not have been necessary. The very fact that God gave these instructions shows that both husband and wife are inherently flawed, capable of failing and even acting opposite to what He requires. That is why He had to address these areas—instilling and demanding such virtues—because without His guidance, we would never live them out on our own.

That said, ‘as it is fitting in the Lord’ does not give a Christian the freedom to divorce at will, even if the other spouse behaves selfishly or follows their fleshly desires. As you’ve been praying—‘Break me, mold me, fill me, and use me’—know that God may assign a cup for you to drink in life. You can choose to accept it or reject it, just as Christ did. But remember, both acceptance and rejection carry their own consequences. And don’t blame God for your lack of growth or effectiveness in your spiritual journey when you reject the trials He allows and choose to live a neutral, safe life instead. True transformation comes when we embrace His refining work, even through discomfort, fire, and testing. As 1 Peter 5:10 reminds us, ‘But the God of all grace, who has called us to His eternal glory in Christ Jesus, will, after you have suffered a little while, perfect you, establish you, strengthen you, and firmly settle you.’ God’s refining work is always purposeful, shaping us for His glory and eternal design. Patience, forbearance, and a gentle, loving spirit are essential in marriage. Know that tribulation worketh patience – Romans 5:3 – But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing – James 1:4. Submission is never about weakness—it’s about reflecting Christlike love and maintaining harmony.

Of course, this does not apply if the relationship is violent, abusive, adulterous, or unsafe. In those cases, protection and wisdom must come first.

Love bears all things. Through the faith and godly conduct of a believing wife or husband, the other spouse—and even the children—can be sanctified, experiencing God’s transformative work within the family. 1 Corinthians 7:14

This is a faithful saying: For if these things be in you, and abound, they make you that ye shall neither be barren nor unfruitful in the knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. But he that lacketh these things is blind, and cannot see afar off – 2 Peter 1:2-9. This is the only path by which the grace and power of the Spirit can increase and flow abundantly in you to carry out the will of God. For it is God who works in us both to will and to do His good pleasure – Phil 2:13. To access all that God has for us in Christ Jesus, we must align ourselves with His Word and walk in accordance with Scripture.

I want to make something clear. When Scripture says “wives, submit to your own husbands,” it’s not talking about blind obedience or treating a wife as if she’s less valuable. The original word used in Greek, hypotassō, carries the sense of voluntarily coming into alignment, creating order, not being forced into subjugation. It’s more about harmony than a struggle for power.

Notice also it says “your own husbands.” That’s intentional. It doesn’t mean women must submit to all men — it’s about the covenant of marriage and the unique order God designed for that relationship.

Then we have the phrase “as it is fitting in the Lord.” That’s the safeguard. Submission is not without limits. It only applies in the context of what is right before God. If a husband were to ask for something sinful, abusive, or outside God’s will, this verse does not require obedience.

So, Paul is really pointing wives toward an attitude of respect and partnership, walking in step with God’s design. And right after that, he gives husbands the command: “love your wives and do not be harsh with them.” That’s not about domination — it’s about self-sacrificial love, the same kind Christ showed the church.

Taken together, these verses show that marriage is not built on hierarchy for its own sake, but on a relationship of mutual love, respect, and order under God.

Why God’s Commands Matter

The Lord doesn’t hand down these commands randomly. There’s a theological and creational logic behind why He tells men and women to walk in their respective callings. Here’s the heart of it.

– God is a God of order, not confusion (1 Corinthians 14:33). Headship and submission in marriage aren’t cultural accidents. They’re rooted in creation itself (1 Corinthians 11:8-9; 1 Timothy 2:13). The husband’s role mirrors Christ’s sacrificial leadership, and the wife’s role mirrors the Church’s willing submission. This order is a living parable of the Gospel.

– Man was tasked with leading, guarding, and providing (Genesis 2:15). Woman was tasked with helping, nurturing, and completing (Genesis 2:18). These roles aren’t arbitrary. They are tied to our very design, physical, emotional, and spiritual. To rebel against them is to rebel against how God made us.

– Marriage is meant to sanctify us (Ephesians 5:26-27). By commanding men to love sacrificially and women to submit respectfully, God is chiseling away at the two great strongholds of the flesh. For men, it’s selfishness, pride, and harshness. For women, it’s control, resistance, and disrespect. The commands are perfectly aimed at our fallen tendencies.

– If a man refuses to love like Christ, it reveals his heart of stone and pride. If a woman refuses to submit and respect, it reveals her rebellion and unbelief. That’s why Paul says marriage shows whether you are truly walking in the Spirit or still enslaved to the flesh (Galatians 5:16-17).

– A Christ-centered marriage is a sermon to the world (Ephesians 5:32). It testifies of Christ and the Church. When husband and wife reject their God-given commands, they aren’t just failing each other. They’re misrepresenting Christ.

The Lord commands each gender this way because:

– It reflects His divine order.

– It cuts against the grain of our sinful flesh.

– It puts on display the mystery of Christ and His Bride.

Jesus said, “Whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it” (Matthew 16:25). Hereby perceive we the love of God, because He laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren (1 John 3:16). This isn’t optional, but a mandate. In marriage, you lay down pride, prejudice, and selfish ambitions to love an imperfect person with God’s perfect love. Your spouse may not be the most attractive or charismatic, but if God has chosen them, they’ll be your partner in sanctification. Trust His promise, “Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart” (Psalm 37:4).

Overcoming Fears That Hinder Marriage

– No spouse is perfect. Their flaws are opportunities to reflect Christ’s sacrificial love.

– If you’re waiting for a spouse to heal your brokenness, you’ll burden them with impossible expectations. Seek wholeness in Christ first.

– Scripture warns against marrying non-believers (2 Corinthians 6:14). If already in such a marriage, rely on God’s grace to navigate it (1 Corinthians 7:12-14).

– Marriage is a “cup to drink” (Matthew 20:22), a faith journey where God equips you to succeed through His Spirit.

A Call to Action: Trust God’s Healing and Plan

If you long for marriage, stop chasing a worldly ideal or expecting a spouse to complete you. First, bring your brokenness to God—your traumas, fears, and conflicts. Let Him heal you through Christ’s love, making you whole. Then pray for a spouse, trusting God to lead you to the one He has chosen. They may not match your vision, but they’ll be a partner in God’s redemptive work. Don’t pick anyone you see or deem worthy; be led by the Spirit of God and let Him guide you. Here’s the secret: if we know that He hear us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of Him (1 John 5:14). Trust Him with all your heart and wait for Him.

If you’re married, stop looking to your spouse for the fulfillment only God can provide. Recommit to loving them selflessly, as Christ loves the church. Know this: marriage is where your self dies, and in that death you are made alive in Christ, united to your wife as one flesh. Marriage is a holy adventure. Take a bold step into God’s holy design, trusting Him to guide your heart and heal your fears, with your eyes fixed on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith (Hebrews 12:2).